We have many misconceptions about male-female relationships and cooperation. More wrongs have been born out of them. In this article, let us think about three things: equality between men and women, feminism and exploitation of men. The real question behind all these three types of subjects is that men and women are men and women, they are not treated as human beings or as individuals in a genderless manner. The opinions of both of them about each other and their behavior towards each other is gender-based. That is, a woman, as a woman, looks at a man as if he is a man, and of course, men act in the same way. Both of them usually do not have the feeling that we are human beings, we are individuals. Therefore, both men and women behave and talk to each other according to the rituals that are imposed on men and women in the traditional way. From them, the gendered actions of the same method are also taking place. In which women are bound to do this and men are not to do that. Of course, it is true that women have been and still are the most affected. But this does not mean that men are not harmed. It has happened to them too, only they are not aware of it. Which has started happening recently.
The issue of gender equality has gained momentum in recent years. It is said that both are the same mentally and physically, so they should do the same work. Mostly it is insisted that women should do all the work like men. It is a demand that women should be allowed to do where men go and do, removing the restrictions that have been placed on them so far and giving them freedom. There is apparently nothing wrong with this. But if we think a little deeper, it will be seen that this will not solve the main problem, but some more new problems will arise. First, we must realize that we are always reluctant to accept facts. In fact, there is nothing to be ashamed of. On the contrary, by denying the facts, we are putting ourselves in trouble and creating more questions. Equality between men and women should be a matter of philosophy, but we have made it a physical and mental thing. We must first accept that men and women are not equal or similar in nature, mentally and physically. Admittedly, neither of them are perfect. Admittedly, both of them have strengths and weaknesses. Most importantly, we need to acknowledge that both are perfected through mutual cooperation.
In the name of equality, men and women are in danger of forgetting their individual, independent and unique identities. In many cases, they have started feeling ashamed of themselves for no reason or feel too confident. It should be noted that doing everything a man does will not benefit a woman and the same is the case with men. There are certain things that are special to him and should be left to him. With effort, we can do each other's things, but we will not be able to do anything special. Now let's understand this thing with some examples. In many places in our country, women are banned from temples. This ban is justified by citing their menstrual cycle. Movements are taking place to lift this temple ban. They have been successful in some places, the law has also approved them. But no one seems to be thinking about what exactly has benefited women from this for their upliftment. So far, women have been greatly exploited by being trapped in the religion and rituals related to it. So why this urge to get involved in the same exploitation again? Women are heavily restricted by religious rituals, so why is there a struggle to re-enter them? How will this temple entry help improve their lives? It is childish stubbornness and even stupid to want us to have access as only men have access. Why this insistence on getting yourself stuck in the same religious bond again? Menstruation is a natural body dharma, just like men's ejaculation. Instead of making people aware of it, insisting on temple entry is a sign of regressiveness.
Equality should be a matter of principle. If it becomes an objective matter, it won't last long for either of them. Feminism is the exact opposite of this equality and is neither appropriate for women nor for men. Because it has been seen that in this, women take a very hard role and become lonely. They become hecklers, misogynists, domineering like men, where men are restricted, ridiculed, humiliated, ostracized, subordinated, just as men have done to them. Nothing good will be achieved from this. They are losing their femininity in the name of equaling men. There is a danger that feminism, instead of becoming a path for women's freedom and progress, turns out to be anti-men, self-enslavement. Feminism that alienates women from men is wrong. Because it is often overlooked that not all men are oppressors and not all women have feelings for men. Because they both accept each other as they are, they respect each other, they don't hesitate to help each other. Forms of male exploitation have been born out of radical feminism. Their quantity is, of course, less, but it is there. They are also increasing the rate of misogyny in men and, as a result, women are getting a reason to push their feminism forward again. It is a vicious cycle from which both will find it difficult to escape.
It is very difficult, if not impossible, for both men and women to reject each other and progress. Direct and indirect relationships with each other will continue to come. They need each other to fulfill their physical, mental, social, economic and cultural needs. The more open it is in their relationship, the more easily these needs will be met. It requires understanding each other as individuals, respecting each other and cooperating with each other without any conditions. Let us start doing this for ourselves.
