The famous feminist writer Simon de Bovan wrote in her, 'The second sex. It is said in this book that a woman is not born but is made. The exact same statement is equally true for men. No one knows at birth whether they are male or female, and for many years they are not even aware of the differences between themselves and their friends. That awareness begins during puberty. But all over the world, we have been doing the work of creating the mentality of children by putting this natural process on children from a very young age in which you are a boy and in girls you are a girl. Gender discrimination starts at home and from a very young age. Therefore, the children's parents, other relatives in the house, neighbors are directly responsible for the many negative consequences that are felt in the case of both of them. But even among them, this concept of gender discrimination comes from their family, and it is a tradition that can be traced back to ancient times. Through social culture, religious culture, family culture, we do not grow or develop as a person, but we grow as a man or a woman. All our physical, mental, physical, immaterial consciousnesses are imposed by this sex discrimination to such an extent that it becomes almost impossible to get out of it. If one tries to do so, he has to face many difficulties and oppositions. Which starts from home.
An important rite of passage in this sexism is that men are tough, strong, or, as men are called, and women are weak, weak. Examples of it are so abundantly and easily found in the surrounding affairs that neither men nor women realize that there is anything wrong with them. Of course, recently there is some awareness about it, but it has not yet taken effective form. What are these examples? Mard ko dard nahi hota, be brave, a man who has no threat is Baylya. Asking a man to fill bangles in his hands to draw water from a man can be given many examples. On the contrary, if a woman shows some achievement, she is masculine, if she is free in speech and behavior, she is masculine, you are not my daughter, but my son, etc. It is true that women are underestimated in both these types, but at the same time, it can be seen that men are also being mentally debilitated by putting unnecessary greatness on them. This erroneous and irrational perception is created by insisting that men and women should do the work of so-called men and women, instead of treating them as individuals and imposing a gendered consciousness on them.
There is a belief that men do not feel pain. They don't even cry. Men are not made of iron. The reason behind this belief is that if they are wounded, they bleed, if their bones are hurt, they feel pain, but the good person silently suffers without showing it. This is endurance and has nothing to do with gender. In the test of endurance, not men, but women are always ahead of them. No man in the world can bear the pain of a woman giving birth to her child. It cannot be compared. Women are always ahead of men, not only in terms of physical labor, but also in terms of mental endurance. Women cry because of their natural constitution. It has nothing to do with their weakness. It is a natural process of decomposition. It makes the mind light and reduces stress on the body. It is a natural defense mechanism to deal with the physical and mental stress that women have to go through. Men don't have it, so their eyes don't usually emit tears, but it creates an internal tension in them that gives rise to their violent behavior. So crying is not a test of someone's worth. Just because men cry does not make them women. Telling them so is not only insulting to women but also putting unnecessary pressure on those men. Conversely, the more stressed men try to cry, the more they feel.
We have a dirty practice of demeaning men by using feminine symbols. By filling one's hands with bangles, or asking to be filled, that man's accomplishments are listed. But people don't realize that the second meaning is that women who wear bangles are not virtuous. A bangle is a sign of good luck, an ornament that reveals a woman's beauty, but it has been associated with something undesirable. Men do not do as much work outside as women do in the house. The male mentality is responsible for keeping women stuck in the house. The work that women go out and do today proves that they are not less than men in any respect. Yet we are still not out of that hegemonic mindset.
Even in the case of women, their performance is measured by male symbols. It means telling a woman that she is masculine, or that she is as fierce as a man. What is the need for this originally? There is no need to always measure a woman's performance against that of a man. And it is also wrong to make fun of men because of women's abilities. Both are different in nature, physically and mentally, and this difference should be easily accepted without any ego. It is important to treat them as individuals. Rather than comparing them to each other, it is important to give them a chance to grow independently. Where they are given this freedom without any restraint, they develop holistically and where this does not happen, they decline. Which goes down to the next generation as well. We should start from ourselves to end this vicious cycle. As both men and women are superior in their own way, they also have some shortcomings. It varies from person to person. By getting to know each other and supporting each other, they will be able to help each other in a better way, which will also lead to their personal development. Then he needs to decide whether we should follow the path of progress or decline. He and she will be responsible for the consequences.
