Nature has designed the bodies of men and women in such a way that men have more advantages than women. This physical structure which gives inclination to men is made by nature to keep human reproduction smooth and in proper proportion. But with time, that main purpose was lost and men began to dominate women by taking advantage of this physical dominance for their own pleasure. The most terrible form of them is sexual rights. Which is a purely coercive right. Whether it is sexual pleasure or pain, women have to suffer more. Men are freed by sex, but women are not freed like that. The risk of pregnancy always hangs over them like an inverted sword. Meanwhile, the man is free to sleep with another woman. He has no responsibility after intercourse. He does not have to suffer any physical pain. Maybe that's why he is irresponsible when it comes to sexual pleasures, or he doesn't notice the trouble women are having.
The male perception that women are consumables is very old. The spouse was also entrusted with the responsibility of running all the religious, cultural, social, political and family traditions of the woman. Her virginity was also associated with the familial rites imposed on her by her character. Her modesty made men question their dignity because it confirmed their over the woman. Due to these extra restrictions, women's lives were greatly reduced. The main thing is that their sexual freedom was threatened. Because their own over their sexual desires was rejected by society instead of men.
She should not talk about her sexual desires, she should preserve her virginity after marriage, she should not satisfy her sexual needs after marriage with anyone other than her husband, she should not do anything that would expose her body to others and, most importantly, she and she alone would be held responsible for all these things. The rule itself was made.
All these things we know now. But hereafter I am going to say things that women now need to understand and act accordingly. They should use it to change the mindset about rape. This is much needed in our present times. Women need to take initiative in these tasks. They should not expect too much from men. Not from the politicians, society and the religious people. The first of these is that all responsibility for rape lies with men, not women. What she wore, where, at what time, why she went alone, how she behaved had nothing to do with rape. Bad-minded men try to enjoy any woman at the first opportunity, regardless of her age, appearance, color, time, place, clothes, behavior. It is men's fault, not women's. Therefore, no woman should blame herself, should not be held responsible, should not sit down for sexual assaults on her. Look at rape as just a physical accident. Therefore, their character is not tarnished, and their femininity is not destroyed. Their competence does not diminish nor does their humanity diminish. So there is no need for them to share shame, be humiliated and live a lonely life hiding themselves from society. All this needs to be done by the raped man, not by the raped woman.
Every woman needs to take a stand against sexual harassment. The more she openly and fearlessly fights about it, the better it will be for her. Rather than what society says, what the family says, what friends, family and relatives say, she should think about herself and fight against the oppression done to her. She should also believe that she will meet many people who will help her in this work. Even if it doesn't happen, she shouldn't lose heart. Because this is ultimately a social battle in which many will have to fight for their lives. She has to do this to preserve her femininity, to preserve her dignity. His first step would be for her not to stigmatize rape, not to think that life is over, not to think that we are unfit to live, not to think that we are inferior to others because of it. An accident to the body should not be given more importance than this. But at the same time, fight a legal battle about sexual assault on yourself. She should raise her voice against anyone who tries to undermine her dignity. I have repeatedly said that women need to take the initiative in these tasks because if they do not help themselves, if they do not become mentally strong, other men of understanding will not be able to help them.
Our society's perception of sex is very gross, hypocritical and regressive. Therefore, men and women who have come of age have to live in a cage, restraining their sexual feelings. Then they resort to other ways to escape from them. They get less pleasure and more pain from it. Even in that, women were the worst losers. There is still a long time for the idea of sexual freedom to take root in us. But now is the time to move in that direction. There is a need now to change the foolish notions of marriage as a condition for sexual pleasure, taking advantage of others for sexual pleasure, associating sexuality with character and chastity. There is nothing wrong in having sexual pleasure with each other's consent. But at the same time, it is important to be careful and if a pregnancy happens, both of them need to take responsibility for it. If men go to prostitutes to satisfy their sexual desire, women have that right too. It is also wrong to associate sex with love. Most importantly, both men and women do not need physical intercourse for their sexual appetite. Both of them can satisfy their hunger through masturbation. It does not cause any physical or mental harm. In particular women need to adopt this, because it is a misconception that both men and women have that they depend on men for sexual pleasure. Because of this belief, many girls take sexual pleasures at risk and then regret it.
A woman's body is her own. Only she has authority over it. She has to decide what to do with him. She wants to make sure that he is not exploited by others, no one takes undue advantage of him. The more freely she acts in this regard, the more she will benefit. But if she imposes the wrong notions of the society on herself, she will never be freed. She will have to show the courage to take a decision if she wants to change this situation. But it is certain that she will not be alone in this.
