It is a simple matter that our body belongs to us. But even this simple thing is not true in the case of women. It turns out to be a tragedy. A woman's body is a walking example of her slavery and male domination. A major obstacle to women's individualization is that they have to prove their right to their own bodies. Viewing women as a beautiful consumable body or a means of reproduction rather than as individuals is a sign of male dominance. The earlier matriarchal system was born out of women's reproductive capacity. It was a wonderful event that a new life was born in her body. Because of that, she got a divine position. But later, due to this ability, she turned into property and men started claiming her. Her right to her body was denied in due course, and she was forever enslaved by men.
The process of enslaving her mind began during the so-called golden age of civilization and culture when she was given the position of a goddess, entrusted with the responsibility of carrying and preserving religious and cultural traditions. For that, she was honored with benevolence, but behind that a very effective solution was being planned to harden her mind. This commodification of woman's mind and body continues till today.
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Through the institution of marriage, this commodification and commodification begins. She has to get married to a son who is found not by her but by the family and also by the wishes of her father or brothers. Girls who say 'I will marry only according to the will of my parents' or parents who say 'our daughter is not against our will', both forget the burning truth behind this. A girl does not remember her freedom and parents do not worry about their daughter's rights. In marriage, her body is traded and her commodification gains a further dimension. His test comes in her childbirth. It is considered her only responsibility to have a child, even more so to have a son. If it doesn't happen, it doesn't take time for her mind and body to be ruined. A woman who nurtures her fetus for nine months and after giving birth, through whom that infant lives, has never in history been able to claim the right to her child. It is from this that the terrible tragedy called Kumari Mata was born.
A woman's body was rarely valued more than a reproductive machine in a time when having an heir was very important. There are many examples in the Mahabharata of having an affair with a foreigner and getting a son just for the sake of an heir. They are occasionally used as examples of ancient free sexual freedom in India. But its tragedy remains overlooked. Because even in the Niyoga system, a woman did not have the freedom to choose a man. She had to sleep with the men, she was told. This appointment was carried out regardless of her wishes to be an heir. Although Kunti got the right to choose her husband because of her groom, she got the position of right not because of her name but because of Pandu's name. You have to understand the difference. Otherwise, like Karna, the rest of her children would have been identified as orphans or Shudras. Whether or not children get a place of honor in society depends not on the women who give birth to them, but on the men.
Whether they were married women or unmarried virgin mothers, they could never claim authority over their children. That right should be passed on to their children by their husbands or by the man who has usurped them. If they said it was not their child, she was considered an adulteress if married and a virgin mother if unmarried. Men were allowed to assert their right to raise motherless children, but virgin mothers were not. This is just my child, even if his biological mother refused to accept him, she was not allowed to say or act like I could raise him as my child. It is not even today. Children are rarely mistreated because they don't have a mother's name, but if they don't have a father's name, they will always be humiliated. A virgin mother again needs some kind of man for her children to have legal rights, social recognition or assert her authority over them.
There are men who take pleasure in her flesh and run away as soon as the child is born, and there are also men who deny her and her child all the right to live with dignity and even to live on occasion, blaming only her for her motherhood. She is denied the opportunity to present any of her views. Even women who are destined to become virgin mothers due to rape have no escape or sympathy where there is no fault of their own.
It is time we look at these various issues of virgin mothers with more awareness and compassion. Men who blame such girls should surely consider that nature has not entrusted them with the responsibility of pregnancy, that is why men consume women in a careless manner. If both were responsible for pregnancy, men would certainly have taken a different role in it. Women's pregnancy is the cause of their debilitation. It is a mockery of what they have to endure for the survival of the human race. It is an insult to their creator. No one is to blame for succumbing to the desire for sexual pleasure at a young age. It is necessary to make them aware of their responsibility. What is needed is to change the male mentality of blaming only the woman if she gets pregnant. What is needed is to glorify her motherhood and give her child all social and legal rights.
The most important thing is to give her the right to do with her body. Let her decide who she wants to have sex with. To decide what to do with the fetus in her body. There will certainly be exceptions but the rule should be that a woman should have the right to hand over her body to someone, to have a child or not, to grow a fetus or not, because she has more stress than men. A mistake on her part need not be given more importance than mocking her as a virgin mother. Now there is a need to think about how that mistake can be corrected and tolerated. If the woman wants that child, she should also get the right to raise that child as her own, in her name. Without any social ostracism, without any vile ridicule and without any suppression of legal rights.
The issue of virgin mothers is a disgusting example of male supremacy. When there is no harmony in the society, when sexual pleasures are considered dirty, when the right to live as an individual is denied, not only women but also men have to bear the unbearable consequences. If we want to avoid this, as a starting point we should take a step towards treating such virgin mothers with compassion. Society will change when it wants to change, but as individuals we must change ourselves first.
We can make sure that I accept my responsibility as a man, do not take advantage of women's natural helplessness, do not insult her motherhood. Sexual desires should be seen as purely natural desires. Only then can we find a definite solution to the problem of virg
